Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships
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- 8.8 oz
- Publication date
- October 26, 2012
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- English
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- 176 pages
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Do traditional relationship books fail to capture your relationship orientation? You naturally lead, or you deeply thrive by following - this book validates and explains that dynamic. Imagine your relationship as a captain and first mate on a voyage. This dynamic is powerful, natural, and valid - woven throughout history, regardless of gender. Author and leading expert Chris M. Lyon helps you: • Identify your true orientation: Leading or Following • Gain clarity about your natural traits and how they can shape your relationship • Help friends and family understand and respect your choices In Leading and Supportive Love, you’ll get research insights, real case studies, and practical help for your unique partnership. And yes: This is a relationship where both partners are equals. "This book gave me valuable insight into my relationship with my L-type. Enjoyable and easy to follow." — Amazon Reviewer Scroll up and click 'Buy Now' to get your copy. Read more
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| Publisher | CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform |
|---|---|
| Publication date | October 26, 2012 |
| Language | English |
| Print length | 176 pages |
| ISBN-10 | 1480160946 |
| ISBN-13 | 41 |
| Item Weight | 8.8 ounces |
| Dimensions | 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches |
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Top Amazon Reviews
A in depth look at who you are an L or and S
Format: Kindle
5/23 AFTER completing the book The words below are even more true. I have found a deeper understanding of my own personality traits and have learned better skills to deal with life's ups and downs, I have been able to deal with a change in my life and breath and be through this process and let go with in a 24 hr period. I now have tools that will assist me in making a better life for myself and any and all eventual relationships ( personal and professional) Chris is amazing and supportive! GET THIS BOOK! The book gives insight into how our personalities and behaviors can directly influence our relationships. It let's you understand who you are by clearly pointing out common behavior patterns and expectations that a person will hold on to. I am currently taking the on line class that goes into more detail of the book and presents it in a clear logical way just like this book. I found a deeper understanding of why I do or behave in a certain way and that it is healthy and life affirming. Reading this book also gives me insight into my eventual counterpart and I see myself finding a peaceful and balanced life using the tools I found in the pages of this amazing book.
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Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2023 by Karrie S
This book is my relationship bible....
Format: Paperback
Do you know what is sexy about this book? It explains in great detail how to have a loving healthy relationship. What a concept right?! If you are looking for a how-to-book about kinky sex, before you venture down that road first you need to know how to have a relationship with another human being. Plain and simple. Chris M. Lyon maps out and outlines every possible scenario that can make or break a relationship. What we do to sabotage ourselves and our partner in the relationship, and how to avoid this in the future, She also gives the reader a step by step guide to help you determine what relationship type you are, who you would be attracted to and why. I have read some of the other reviews. It seems that maybe some reviewers were expecting to read about kinky play rather than the foundation and structure of the relationship itself it may not have been what they were looking for. On the other hand, I did notice some readers seemed to get the impact and value of this unique and extremely helpful relationship book. This book is highly recommended as a must read and I totally agree. The author is an obvious expert on this type of relationship, and did her research; the book is very thorough. I really appreciated the numerous alternative lifestyle-friendly mental health professionals that are featured. Whether you are single or in a long-term relationship, this book can help you. Thanks to Chris M. Lyon I have learned that I am a supportive partner and thanks to this insightful book, I have found my leading partner.
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Reviewed in the United States on June 20, 2017 by RMC
Defining D/s relationships without all the BDSM attached
Format: Paperback
The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn't that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it's that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a leading and supportive relationship without all the kink, discipline and fetish mumbo jumbo that tends to muddy our understanding when we get involved in BDSM. First and foremost this book is about couples that agree and migrate towards a type of relationship where one person leads and the other supports. It is the basis of any strong D/s relationship. Leading and Supportive Love - The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships should be a recommended reading for every person interested in D/s relationships so that we can learn just who we are as people and the roles we play in a relationship without having to talk about kink, punishment, rules, BDSM play or sex. This book does what every BDSM relationship book should have done; lay down the essential parts of each person in the relationship and why leading and supportive relationships work. I also feel that therapists and counselors would learn a lot about this sort of relationship and use it to their advantage in counseling couples and individuals that fit this relationship type. Lyon expresses that need in this book too. If you have a therapist that doesn't quite get why you are submitting to your partner or what you get out of it, I recommend getting them this book. You don't have to out yourself as kinky to do it either. Lyon doesn't talk about kink or BDSM as the only way this relationship type exists. Because it isn't. Everyday couples are leading a Leading/supportive relationship without being kinky, without thinking they are out of the ordinary and without having to label it as D/s or M/s. It's just how they function and it works for them. So, come read this book. My favorite sections were the detailed profiles of how the two roles identify each other and the traits that they often exhibit. You will find yourself nodding along with them as I did. You'll read case illustrations about different struggles, relationship help and details that may make you think about your relationship differently. If you aren't sure if you are a leader or a supportive type, check out the profiles yourself. This book also has several chapters talking about common issues that L/s relationships face and ways to work through them. It's a wonderful self-help book for the experienced long term relationship that may be hitting a wall in their relationship. Overall I can't recommend this book enough. It's become a go to for me to express thoughts and ideas when it comes to D/s and it is going to go on my recommended reading list for novices. It's just that good. I've read it twice already. Leading and Supportive Love by Chris Lyon is an excellent resource, full of the details that people looking for a D/s relationship really need. The who's, the whys and the possible issues that may occur.
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Reviewed in the United States on August 30, 2013 by Submissive Guide
Find your right match after you read this!
Format: Paperback
I was pointed to this book after making a comment on authors social media and much to my surprise it answered ALOT of questions I had about my own life and helped me understand that I have been choosing the wrong people for a partner. I would date someone thinking ok they have qualities I’m attracted to but then later find out I am not attracted to this persons role in my life and I wanted them to change or be another way. I found myself having to take up and do part of the role I wanted them to be in and I would lose respect for them and become unattracted to them. I learned in this book that that’s because I was not making sure they were what I was looking for. And frankly I didn’t even fully know what I was looking for, until I read this book, I just knew that it was different than what they turned out to be. This book helped me to understand myself and how to find the person that will fit best with me. I think most of us are one of these roles and with this guidance you can be better equipped to find the right person that you feel amazing with. That you dance with best. I recommend anyone you want to date also read this book so you can figure out if y’all are even going to be a match first. This would have saved me so much time in life and I would have been able to weed out a lot of people that just weren’t my actual match. Good luck I highly recommend!
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Reviewed in the United States on December 20, 2023 by Guitar Player
This is our bible.
Format: Kindle
This is our personal bible!! My spouse and I searched high and low for a book like this, and it is the only of its kind we found. Not only does it stand alone, but is incredibly well written. With every page turn, we found ourselves saying YES!! Be advised, it is not about sex, BDSM, or any other related topics, but instead FINALLY addresses the dynamics of loving, long term D/s (L/s) relationships. If you want to find BDSM lingo in this book, look elsewhere. Though it is written for a much broader audience than that, it can also serve as a badly needed supplement to the existing (and lacking) D/s relationship literature out there. For those who are interested in finding greater depth in a Leading/Supporting relationship, evaluating the state/health of an existing one, interesting in finding a compatible partner to begin one, or are trying to find the words to explain the beauty and fulfillment they have found in one, this book will help. I even gave it to my mom to read, because it had the words I just couldn’t find to explain why my relationship was so perfect for me, despite not conforming to traditions and societal conventions. After she read it, she very clearly understood who we are as people, and why we are a perfect match for each other. I recommend this book to anyone who is interested in D/s relationships, or who knows someone who is.
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Reviewed in the United States on August 21, 2019 by Eunice Marino
If you would like inspiration on how to have a healthy D/s relationship
Format: Paperback
I found it interesting and helpful but I didn't agree with the Dom and sub descriptions. I found it an unfortunate to educate other's with these closed views. I've met so many different types of Doms and subs with varied dynamics and this book didn't give you the broad view. If you're looking to figure out if you're a Dom or a sub don't look here it'll confuse you. If you would like inspiration on how to have a healthy D/s relationship, this helps. It gives inspiration, but is by no means a bible to stick to. I was disappointed with this book but it is an interesting read.
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Reviewed in the United States on December 17, 2014 by Michelle Lane
Recomendado
Format: Paperback
Un gran libro, super interesante
Reviewed in the United States on September 10, 2026 by Yorle Bienestar
A great introduction to understanding how I work in a relationship...and how to explain it to others
Format: Kindle
I lived with a boyfriend for three years. I was married to someone else for ten years. I had several long term relationships as well. Nearly all of them ended up with me leaving because my needs were not being met. No, I don't mean my sexual needs. I mean my needs in the relationship dynamic. You see, I am a giver of support: I like to help others succeed because I fixed their resume, I prepared dinner on time so they could go to a meeting, or I followed through on a task list that was given to me. I don't want to be ordered to do things; rather, I want to be asked to do things that would help my partner and our relationship, and in return, I want to be thanked -- genuinely thanked. In reading Leading and Supportive Love, I found myself identifying with the Supportive-type. It matched my giver-nature from all my years volunteering with charities and donating time and talent. I wanted to have a defined role where I could know my position and know that my partner was going to step up, make decisions, and stand by them as well as recognize my efforts towards our joint-success. I wanted someone else to take charge and make sure that we were making progress as a team. As a volunteer as well as an employee, when I am asked to be in charge I slip into a Type-A dynamic that is rather hard-edged and intense. It doesn't really present me with a supportive side. And I want that supportive side to show through. In reviewing my past partners, I found that very few of them were Leaders in my relationship with them. Those that have the traits, I am still good friends with...and we work well together on projects to this day. Then there are others who just don't fit in either role -- and that's fine, it just means I did not get my needs met in our relationships. Then there were a few who were very much Supportive-types like me...and I could see how we spiraled into a "waiting for the other to decide/take action" vortex. Those relationships were very unhealthy for me. This book is not a primer on the BDSM concepts of Domination and submission in the sense that one partner must over-power the other, and the other relinquishing their independent thoughts or actions. A closer description would be to compare the L/S-relationship to how the 1950's era households worked: and yes, there were some of those households where the wife stayed home but was in charge of the house and it's decisions. It wasn't all The Man's decision regarding how the house operated or plans for vacations. The types defined are not gender-specific...they are type-specific. One should read the whole book before passing judgement on either type. Both of them are strong in their convictions and how they interact in a relationship. Who knows, if it's not for you...you just may see a friend in one of these types, and then better understand how their life works.
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Reviewed in the United States on November 16, 2012 by Sandra C