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She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ William Morrow Paperbacks; Illustrated edition (February 1, 2009)


Language ‏ : ‎ English


Paperback ‏ : ‎ 240 pages


Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 9.6 ounces


Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.53 x 8.25 inches


Best Sellers Rank: #3,130 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #5 in General Sexual Health #6 in Women's Sexual Health #7 in Popular Psychology of Sexuality


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    • I Learned Things About My Body FROM A MAN?!
I got this book hoping my partner would be open to reading it, but before giving it to him, I read it for myself. Because I had SERIOUS doubts that a man could know the woman body. Especially intimately and sexually! 😂 So, I read it and I have to say... I learned things from Kerner about my OWN BODY that I didn’t even know! He really knows his stuff, and he has obviously done his... homework. 😉 A special note to women who have partners who could get by with a little less pride and ego... My partner wasn’t excited at all to get the book. Actually, he was pissed. I had been tried to drop sex hints and to let him know what I did or didn’t like countless times in countless (thought in more subtle and less direct) ways. I bring this up because any woman wanting to give this to her man needs to be aware that she could be opening one ugly can of worms. Knowing my partner, I knew deep-down that he would react this way because he likes to believe he’s amazing at everything and never go questioned (he’s now my ex). However, I chose to ignore that knowing that tried to arise. So, heed your intuition as to how you should go about getting this book. And if you discover that getting it would cause an explosive situation between you and your partner, then either you’re overdue in (1) leaving him, or (2) giving yourself permission to have needs and to have them met. Good luck ladies and gents! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on December 26, 2018 by Amazon Customer
    • VERY HIGHLY recommended. An eye opener!!! A confidence builder!!!
“She Comes First” is very highly recommended. It has opened my eyes. It has significantly increased my confidence. It has made me a much better partner/lover. I stumbled upon the book while searching for "The Joy of Sex." At the time, I was newly divorced and in search of direction prior to re-entering the dating world. Based on the reviews, I purchased both books. Unfortunately, I read TJS first. It was somewhat enlightening, but nothing I would recommend. After sitting in my desk for more than a year, I read SCF. It was an eye-opener. I never realized how little I knew about the female anatomy. After reading the book I better understood why over the years women said I was "too fast" and/or "too rough." Although I was a little overwhelmed at times with the technical aspects of the book, the first time I put the techniques into practice I was shocked how easy it was to step up my game. I made a VERY GOOD first impression with the new woman in my life. The responses to my moves were overwhelming. For the first time, I felt like I knew what I was doing. Throughout the night and in to the early morning, I always prioritized her. My contentment took her by surprise. I truly focused on savoring all aspects of pleasing her instead of worrying about my needs/desires. Since this was our first time together, this approach went a long way towards allaying her concerns that my interest might be short-term. As a result, I have laid the ground work for building a key facet for a strong, long-term “relationship.” I stress relationship because the book is about much more than sex. It's a paradigm shift. Unfortunately, my ex-wife will never experience the benefits of my enlightenment. Our sex life was very routine/dull. Although SCF wouldn't have saved our marriage, it might have eliminated an Achilles heel we never discussed. ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ P.S. - The more I practice, the better I be"come." So far, my record is providing five orgasms in one day, across two sessions. I have discovered three ways to GUARANTEE results. I have gone from an amatuer to an expert. Trust me, the techniques work wonders. MOST IMPORTANTLY, my insecurities are gone. Also, by prioritizing my lady-friend, I have rightly made her feel very special. SHE ALWAYS COMES FIRST, in and outside of the bed!!! This makes my life easier and enhances our relationship :-) +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ P.P.S. - As recommended, candle light is essential!!! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on October 14, 2018 by Paix16
    • I recommend it to every man or anyone who wants to ...
I bought this book thinking it won’t hurt to read but there is no way I believed for a second it would have the impact it has had for me and my wife. I read it with an open mind and now I have the absolute confidence that I can make my wife orgasm multiple times every time we have sex. EVERY TIME. I don’t believe half the reviews I read on amazon but please take this review seriously. I’ve dealt with pe for a long time and it has affected my marriage. But now my wife can’t wait until our next session and neither can I. I followed the tips in this book to a t and it has truly changed our relationship. I recommend it to every man or anyone who wants to get their female begging partner begging for more. No toys just the tongue and index finger! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on April 21, 2018 by Willc2018
    • Great overview of total body sex and how to re-imagine what you thought was 'the right way'
There are so many books written on sex that are trash - poorly written or repetitions. It is hard to distinguish between all of those books and the few, well thought out additions to the topic of sex. This book dives in to how our culture view sex, the poor job we do of teaching sex ed to our youth/young adults, and the resulting lack of focus on female pleasure and total body sex. This book gives explicit instructions on how to better pleasure your partner, the science and art behind sex from how to set the mood to how to make your spouse feel comfortable and relaxed. I recommend this book to everyone from the experience lover to the first-time mate. As with any subject, there is always room for improvement. Hope this review was helpful! Let me know if you have any questions! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on April 9, 2018 by The Fair Critic
    • Smooooooth
I thought it was a book about making papaya and banana smoothies and was shocked and disappointed to find it's really not about that at all. Read it anyway thinking he'd get to the smoothie part eventually but he never did. I learned a few things along the way. My girlfriend gives it a gasping 5 stars. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on January 2, 2018 by mark leonard
    • 😍my husband is reading a book!
First book my husband has read in 10 yrs of marriage. Yeaaa me. So much good info and advice. He keep saying " did you know...". 😍😍
Reviewed in the United States on February 20, 2017 by JennyD1006
    • Fluff.
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Could have easily been half the size. I was nearly 100 pages in before he talked about the physical act itself. Unless you are a total newbie to sex, skip ahead. Far ahead. If you don't, you will be beaten over the head with scientific evidence of things you already knew and the author's own opinions on sexuality, which are entirely uninteresting if you already have your own. Just tell us how to use our mouth better! Don't need the philosophy! Examples include a chapter on Freud's ideas about the clitoris and a chapter on how oral sex was viewed through out history. Gets old fast when you just want some functional information. Skip ahead. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on August 9, 2019 by Brandon

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