Buy Now, Pay Later
As low as
$4
/ mo
Learn more
- – 4-month term
- – No impact on credit to apply
- – Instant approval decision
- – Secure and straightforward checkout
Ready to go? Add this product to your cart and select a plan during checkout.
Payment plans are offered through our trusted finance partners Klarna, Affirm, Afterpay, Zip, Apple Pay, and Google Pay. No-credit-needed leasing options through Acima may also be available at checkout.
Learn more about financing & leasing here.
Free shipping on this product
30-day returns
Learn more
FREE 30-day refund/replacement
To qualify for a full refund, items must be returned in their original, unused condition. If an item is returned in a used, damaged, or materially different state, you may be granted a partial refund.
To initiate a return, please visit our Returns Center.
View our full returns policy here.
Availability:
Only 1 left in stock, order soon!
Arrives
Monday, Sep 28
Recently Viewed
Description
Janet Lansbury’s advice on respectful parenting is quoted and shared by millions of readers worldwide. Inspired by the pioneering parenting philosophy of her friend and mentor, Magda Gerber, Janet’s influential voice encourages parents and child care professionals to perceive babies as unique, capable human beings with natural abilities to learn without being taught; to develop motor and cognitive skills; communicate; face age appropriate struggles; initiate and direct independent play for extended periods; and much more. Once we are able to view our children in this light, even the most common daily parenting experiences become stimulating opportunities to learn, discover, and to connect with our child. “Elevating Child Care” is a collection of 30 popular and widely read articles from Janet’s website that focus on some of the most common infant/toddler issues: eating, sleeping, diaper changes, communication, separation, focus and attention span, creativity, boundaries, and more. Eschewing the quick-fix ‘tips and tricks’ of popular parenting culture, Janet’s insightful philosophy lays the foundation for a closer, more fulfilling parent/child relationship, and children who grow up to be authentic, confident, successful adults. Read more
Publisher : CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Publication date : May 1, 2014
Language : English
Print length : 150 pages
ISBN-10 : 0
ISBN-13 : 70
Item Weight : 6.7 ounces
Dimensions : 5.25 x 0.38 x 8 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #175,320 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #679 in Motherhood (Books) #1,264 in Parenting (Books)
Frequently asked questions
If you place your order now, the estimated arrival date for this product is:
Monday, Sep 28
Yes, absolutely! You may return this product for a full refund within 30 days of receiving it.
To initiate a return, please visit our Returns Center.
View our full returns policy here.
To initiate a return, please visit our Returns Center.
View our full returns policy here.
- Klarna Financing
- Affirm Pay in 4
- Affirm Financing
- Afterpay Financing
- Zip Pay in 4
- Financing through Apple Pay
- Financing through Google Pay
Learn more about financing & leasing here.
Top Amazon Reviews
In writing this book Janet Lansbury has elevated the RIE philosophy to a whole new level. I read Magda Gerber's books when I had my first child, and I found them to promote distant childcare - at least from my perspective of a new parent entirely steeped in the Attachment Parenting (AP) philosophy (my review of the book talks at length about the differences between AP and RIE Your Self-Confident Baby: How to Encourage Your Child's Natural Abilities -- From the Very Start. I was also in love with Maria Montessori's writings advocating respect for the child, so I didn't feel Magda's books offered a novel idea. ...until AP failed me. I loved spending every second with my son, I carried him everywhere, co-slept, nursed him until he self-weaned at 3.5yo, kissed him every chance I had, obsessed over his diet and bowel movements...only to find out this was never enough. He wanted more and more and more of me, until my self-sacrifice took a toll on my health and emotions. Just as an example, leaving the house was a 1-hour ordeal that started with "mommy don't go," moved into guilt trips "mommy I cry angel tears for you when you leave," proceeded into demands for treats or toys, and culminated in a heart-wrenching scream-fest a block or so down the road for all neighbors to see (might I add, in the arms of his dad which he adored, and who quit his job to be a stay-at-home parent). We were all out of give. Having amassed an extensive library of parenting books, I revisited some of them in search for answers. Magda's book struck me differently then. I just had to be honest with my son (I have to leave tomorrow to go to work), validate his feelings (I know you don't like me to leave, I hate to go too), and comfort him if he cried without having to stop the meltdown (I see you're sad/disappointed....). Then magic happened. I could leave the house! That elusive `more" that my son wanted from me was validation, he wanted to know that I understood what he was going through, he did not want me to never leave the house. I started to pay more attention to how *I* felt and responded to his feelings. The key was to not take his feelings personally - they were his - but to make sure they were all acceptable in my book (including hysterical crying). When I had my second baby, I decided to give RIE a more serious try. I read Janet Lansbury's blogs, followed her advice on Facebook, and a number of very smart parents who have now become "my village". I am blown away by the results. It's true that every child is different, but I am doing things very similar this time around (I'm still nursing on demand, co-sleeping, etc., etc.). The only difference: I am paying much more attention to my child, not assuming anything until I stop, watch, and think, and offer minimal intervention when I find out the cause. For e.g., my baby fusses and cries, I go over (no, no longer running frantically fire-drill style), I calmly say: "you sound upset". Then ***I OBSERVE*****. I don't pick up, latch on, and rock around the room until the crying stops. I look for clues as to what might have upset my baby. 90% of the time involves situations for which hugs and milk are the wrong response (such as toy fell off her reach, I stopped singing, brother left the room....). And then, I don't pick up the toy and put it in her hands, I simply validate: "you're upset because the toy fell. You were having fun with it." And then DO NOTHING. Simple, right? Another situation: 6-mo old baby is congested, and wakes up mad throughout the night because she can't breathe and she can't nurse. With the first baby, the solution was saline spray followed by the Nosefrieda (my arms and feet wrapped around my squirming child, heart aching from having to put him through that). I knew the process did not hurt one bit, because I had resorted to spraying his nose in his sleep and he didn't even wake up. With the second child, I showed her the spray bottle and simply explained what was going to happen. First few times she squirmed and cried just as hard as my boy....until I RIE-d the process further. I just put her on her bed, and did not try to subdue her at all. Just told her what I was going to do and waited for her "permission" - any sign of readiness to proceed. I sprayed, she smiled, and it was over. Husband almost fell on the floor (yes, he often had to come help me hold the kids from flailing around while I cleaned their nose, all 6ft of him). One of Janet's first chapters gives you the keys to resolve such situations. She proposes a role reversal. Think about yourself incapacitated, and your child (or some big bulky tall person) taking care of you. They show up with strange instruments, hold you down, and proceed to insert things into your nose - your only breathing apparatus!!!! - and you gag at the feeling, but you are powerless. Wouldn't you scream and fight too? (I've read alien abduction stories that went like this...). Going back to the separation anxiety example, suppose your loved one is leaving the house for an indeterminate amount of time over which you have no control, and he looks like he can't wait to get out the door, rushing through the house collecting clothes, keys, coffee, etc., you totally invisible at best, and at worst a nuisance. Wouldn't you cry too? This book should be read by all parents - new and seasoned. I am not advocating RIE over any other parenting philosophy (although now I strongly prefer it). I think this book is a must for showing you how to think through situations from the eyes of a child (not just telling you to do so) and giving you the tools to respond in a respectful way (in other words the `how-to' missing from the Gerber and Montessori books). In addition, the book fills a very big gap in parenting books: how to raise emotionally intelligent children. I had read all about how important emotional intelligence is, all about how empathy is a better predictor of success than IQ, all about how boys grow up emotionally illiterate, etc. I had read Freud's writings inside and out while in college and knew early experiences might doom my child to perpetual counseling. I knew ABOUT the importance of all the above, but did not know the HOW to go about raising a child who knows what they feel, and knows that whatever they feel is ok (not what they do, what they feel - not advocating permissive parenting here), and knows how they want to be treated. (My older child has coached me through my mommy-tantrums a couple of times now). The book is a collection of Janet's blogs, so one commenter questioned the need to buy the book at all. However, once you go down the RIE path, you will probably encounter resistance because your parenting will appear odd (what do you mean, you don't shush a crying baby? "You're ok" is the wrong thing to say?!! You don't want me to say "Good job!"??). To have a book that you can hand to your husband, nanny, parent, or whoever is taking care of your child (or judging your childcare), is much more convenient than printing out or forwarding blog articles. In addition, you can choose to purchase the audio version - which is what I did. I get more "listening" time than reading time these days. As an added bonus, Janet's voice conveys warmth, confidence, and happiness - a reminder that the childrearing years are good times, not drudgery to wish away or over with. Instead, she advocates an almost Zen approach to parenting: slow down, observe, listen, and be present. Even a messy diaper change can be an opportunity to connect with your child. In today's busy life where parents focus on doing more more and more for and to their child, this book points out the benefits of doing less, but doing it with your child. I am very indebted to this lady for the amazing difference she has made in my parenting.
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on July 8, 2014 by Ivy
My family had the true honor of attending Janet Lansbury's RIE Parent-Infant Guidance classes for 2 years, and for those two years we had the tremendous privilege of learning from one of the loveliest, most kind-hearted, and most thoughtful teachers ever. In looking back on that experience, we feel like we won the lottery - we are just so immensely thankful to her. Whenever we have moments of parenting doubt, I am reminded of the biggest lesson she taught us: to trust our child. This lesson has always served us well and will continue to serve us throughout our child's life. While we are no longer able to attend her classes (we graduated almost 2 years ago), we've since been voracious readers of her blog and return again and again to her website for her simple and straightforward but impactful guidance. When we learned that Janet published a book based on her most popular articles, we were thrilled to be able to have them in book form. It will be one of the very few parenting books we hope to pass on to our child, for when she is a parent herself. We were also thrilled that she can now reach a wider audience of parents like us who needs parenting advice that innately makes sense, feels right and honors who our kids are and who we are as parents. Janet's advice is always clear and concise, and insightful, and above all else, truly respectful of children as authentic and whole beings. It always takes the long view, and helps us remain mindful of our goals of nurturing self-confident, authentic and connected people. I remember how meticulously and painstakingly she worked to craft these perfect articles. I say perfect, because she chose every word of every sentence and of every thought so carefully and so lovingly, so that in the end, her advice is articulated so beautifully and so meaningfully. This book is a labor of love and it truly shows.
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on May 17, 2014 by Amazon Customer
Format: Paperback
I have had the pleasure of following Janet's work for some time now. As a father of a twenty-seven year old, but one who spends a lot of time around children, yet smart enough not to co-parent another persons child, reading Elevating Child Care had two purposes. First, I enjoy Janet's work and take a good deal from it. Second, I find that many of the rules applicable in the raising of babies and toddlers are no different than those we should be applying to each other as adolescents, teens and adults. Many don't and they would benefit from receiving a copy of Janet's book. A simple reading of the table of contents reveals a pathway to good communication for anyone of any age. My son uses the potty on his own without help now and he knows his shapes and colors. But there are other valuable lessons that are wholly independent of age. As an involved and concerned father I have difficulty keeping quite at times. This is subject covered in chapters 13, 14, and 15. When my son and I disagree there are times he is right, and times when I am, and in the process of getting there we tend to butt heads like two bulls. This is covered in chapters 23-26. Being a Christian man I look primarily for Christian answers. Janet's book is not a religious book at all so I questioned many things as I read. I am always looking for a mistake I may make when leaning away from my faith. Agree with me or not, that is who I am. I found that all I read is no different that what I am taught in my faith. Mostly, it comes down to how we see and treat each other, allow one another the freedom of growth and expression, the right to error and learn on our own terms in our time, while being protected from ultimate harm should we blow it. All of this applies to a baby - and it all applies to adults. Imagine the world if we all just treated each other like toddlers with kindness and respect. I wish I had this book twenty-five years ago when I was a fledgling of a father, but as discussed in chapter 29, it is "Never Too Late for Respectful Parenting." I cannot say enough nice things about Elevating Child Care. It is thought provoking and intelligent. We are all different as are our children. In the end we have to do it our way but sometimes we benefit when we are open to insight, another persons perspective, warned of traps we don't see lying in wait, and just slowed down a little to consider the affects of what we do and don't do. After all, when we raise our children, isn't that exactly what we are doing for them? Authored by an educator, told by a mom. Two thumbs up from me.
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on July 29, 2014 by staggolini
I have implemented some of these suggestions and am very impressed by how my baby responds (most notably: if others do not use the respectful techniques, she let's them know they have crossed a boundary. That's pretty cool). I do give her toys while I'm changing her diaper, because otherwise it's a mess and I get frustrated and crabby. I don't announce (sportscast) every single thing that I do. My baby isn't dumb, she seems to know that after she wakes up and eats, we will go into the living room where she'll play with her toys because we do that every morning. My baby does like to be held a lot (or worn in the baby bjorn carrier) and likes to see what her parents are doing. She plays on her own a bit, as the author encourages, but she is more curious about what her pack is doing. In that respect, I think the attachment parenting method is better. But I do like watching which toys she chooses and how she plays with them. I don't offer her toys or show her how they work (most of her toys are very simple, but she loves to play with her container of wipes. She just discovered how to make the tab pop up and it was a big deal for her). I also don't do the outdoor play space advocated by the author because I live in New England where it's quite hot (and buggy) in the summer and quite chilly in the fall and freezing @$$ cold in the winter. I take her outside and let her touch the grass etc. but I spend a lot of time preventing her from putting leaves in her mouth. I did use a mechanical swing for naps (discouraged by the author) but my baby eventually rejected the swing and chose to nap in the bed she sleeps in at night. I also use a jumperoo (also discouraged by the author) when I'm getting my daily workout in, but I haven't put the batteries in it. The best things I took away from this book: 1) Your baby is a person, treat them like you would want to be treated (ie: ask permission before picking them up, attending to personal cleaning etc.) 2) your baby doesn't need to be entertained. Your baby is smart enough to discover the world around them. You can offer help (not rescue) if they run into trouble, but step back and let them explore and discover their own pace. 3) Slow down and you can figure out a reasonable day-to-day living schedule with your baby. You don't have to put them on a rigid nap/eating/play schedule. The desire for those things are built in. Just slow down and together you can work it out.
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on October 9, 2014 by Silent E
Format: Paperback
This is the best parenting book I've read (and I've read a lot)! Janet beautifully writes about ways to connect with our children (with a focus on infants and toddlers) that allows both babies AND parents to thrive. The secret is respect, slowing down, observing our babies and responding to their true needs without agenda or pretense. And when you add that perspective into everything you do with your baby, a whole new world opens up: mealtimes are loads of fun, diaper changes are a favorite activity and just *being* together brings joy. Once you read Janet's insights - and those of her mentor Magda Gerber - you'll see babies in a whole new way (and question why you never thought that way before), which has made me the parent I dreamt of becoming. Throughout her easy-to-read chapters, Janet teaches us to see our babies as capable, intelligent people who are ready to initiate activity and communicate with us beginning at birth. She shares philosophical insights and real world anecdotes that help with both a big picture mind shift and the real life challenges of caring for an infant. This isn't rocket science, but it sure is a recipe for success as I watch my son confidently develop and engage with the world around him with people time and time again commenting that they've never seen a baby "act so well" or be so "independent". I often wonder why everyone hasn't figured this out as it seems to be a no-brainer (who doesn't see the value of respect?) and easy to implement (all it takes is a mind shift - no fancy tools required) and it's a win-win for kids and parents alike! Wherever you are on your parenting journey, but especially if you're a new mom who is looking for ways to naturally and respectfully connect with your baby, while ensuring your own needs are met without guilt, this book is for you.
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on May 17, 2014 by Lauren Lamkin
Format: Kindle
I felt so inspired by “No Bad Kids,” it totally changed my thinking, and this book, “Elevating Childcare” was helpful to build on it. I found it applicable and interesting, and a good reminder of the things I’d learned in the first. It helped me see REI principles more clearly, though perhaps with less specific scenarios and applications than some parenting books. I recommend Janet Lansbury every chance I get!
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on January 19, 2026 by Natalie A.
Format: Paperback
I had been a frequent visitor to Janet's Facebook group, and always felt a connection to the type of parenting she describes. Through blogging, I have been trying the past couple years to come up with a type of parenting that encourages critical thinking an emotional intelligence. I strongly believe that teaching a child to think for himself/herself is the best gift we can give them. And Janet's philosophy hit the nail on the head for many aspects I was just stumped on how to approach. While I had read many of the relevant articles on her Website, Janet suggested that I read this book because it gives an overview of RIE parenting (I love how personal and engaged she is on Facebook!) even though I have a 3-year-old. Most of the book is geared more toward young infants, but the second half of the book is more about toddler discipline. While yes, you can just read the articles on Janet's Website, I still strongly recommend the book because it moves in a very linear fashion and makes a lot more sense than reading a hodgepodge of articles in no particular order (or just the ones you think are relevant to your situation). I feel anybody would be missing out on the whole picture by skipping this book. The biggest benefit my son and I have gotten from this book is a better and more present relationship- I enjoy his company so much more and when I am with him I am much more focused on the moment. When he was 2 and much easier to distract and keep busy by exploring the house, I had everything under control- dishes were always done, clothes were always washed, dried and put away, and his 7 p.m. bedtime gave me plenty of "me time" to recharge my batteries at the end of the day. Once he turned 3, however, I had almost no time to myself. I was drained every day, he needed constant attention and wanted me to play with him rather than keeping himself busy for a few minutes while I cooked dinner. Bedtime had somehow become 9:30pm instead of 7, and by the time he was finally in bed, I myself went to sleep shortly thereafter. I was unhappy, distracted, and I was having a hard time enjoying his presence much of the time (don't get me wrong, I do love him dearly!). We were both unhappy as a result of all of this, actually. One of the last chapters in the book talked about self-care and setting/enforcing boundaries. Something just clicked in my head and I realized this was the reason we were both so unhappy. My son needed me to be present - even if it was for short but intense periods of time - and I needed time to recharge on my own. That night, I told him my expectations ahead of time (as Janet suggests throughout the book) and guided him through our bedtime routine. Of course, he resisted and wanted to keep playing with his toys. Whereas I would have usually waited until he as "ready" to avoid a meltdown right before bedtime, I repeated myself once and when he resisted again, I walked to him and took his hand saying "You're having a hard time with putting your toys down to get ready for bed, so I am going to help you." He wasn't too happy at first, but about 10 seconds into the walk to the bathroom he stopped his fussing and actually opened his mouth for me to help brush his teeth. We followed the same procedure for bedtime, and though there were a few hiccups, everything just seemed so much more peaceful. He was in bed by 7:30 that night, and I had plenty of time to myself. We both woke up refreshed and it was probably the best, smoothest morning we'd ever had. I know this is just the beginning of a journey for us, but Janet has changed my entire outlook on parenting my son and has given me so much hope for the future. I definitely recommend it - and it's such a quick read that even those with only a few short minutes between tantrums can finish it!
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on January 20, 2016 by Anna
Great book, and exactly the parenting relationship I wanted to have with my son. We have an awesome relationship and it just gets better every day. I read "No Bad Kids", another book by Janet, maybe when my son was around 2 and it really helped! There are excerpts from that book in this book as well... And now as I prepare for my 2nd child, this book is just what I needed as I'll be starting from birth. My son is now 4 and he's an active and cooperative participant in our daily routines, a great helper around the house, listens to my instructions and trusts me. If ever he's moody, we know exactly why it is and we are able to talk through it and work it out (whether he needs a nap or is hungry, or something else), but yeah, being able to communicate with him and just honestly enjoy his company every day is such a great blessing. They say life isn't the same when you have kids... this is true, but to me, life is sooo much better now that I have him. I hope that I am able to duplicate the results with the 2nd child as well :)
...
show more
Reviewed in the United States on January 31, 2017 by Natasha Theresa