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Yay! You're gay! Or maybe you're bi. Or maybe you just feel different…in time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, a sense of identity, a new community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise! In this personal, heartfelt go-to guide for young queer guys, broadcaster, YouTuber, and LGBT+ advocate Riyadh Khalaf shares frank advice about everything from coming out to relationships, as well as encouragement for times when you’re feeling low. There’s a support section for family and friends written by Riyadh’s parents and LOADS of hilarious, embarrassing, inspiring, and moving stories from gay boys from around the world. Plus, inspirational gay men including Stephen Fry, Clark Moore, and James Kavanagh share the advice they would give to their younger selves. Packed with practical advice and bright, quirky illustrations and photos, this book contains chapters on: Labels—what does it mean to be gay, bi, trans, or queer?Coming outFirst crushes, first kisses, and first timesDealing with bullies and homophobiaLearning to love your bodySex ed for gay guysConsentHealing heartbreakFinding your tribe Read more
Publisher : Frances Lincoln Children's Books
Publication date : April 16, 2019
Edition : Illustrated
Language : English
Print length : 224 pages
ISBN-10 : 1786033658
ISBN-13 : 59
Item Weight : 14.4 ounces
Reading age : 11 - 16 years
Dimensions : 5.13 x 0.38 x 7.75 inches
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Top Amazon Reviews
Love this book! Very helpful and informative. Felt like I was talking to a friend.
Reviewed in the United States on April 12, 2022 by review
Amazing information, the only thing that bugged me was there were a numbet of spelling errors while reading through it.
Reviewed in the United States on February 24, 2020 by Pudge
This was a gift and he didn’t put it down until it was finished!
Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2020 by Melanie Elben
Thank you!
Reviewed in the United States on February 24, 2020 by Jorge
Overall, I found this to be a cute, informative, up-to-date & fun book that my younger gay self would have cherished. But there are some "continuity" issues with the book that I hope will be corrected in later editions. Among the most glaring was page 171 ending in the middle of a sentence with page 172 taking up a new chapter with no continuation of the sentence cut off in the middle at page 171 :-( BAD proofreader!!!! But overall a neat book for younger gay men.
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Reviewed in the United States on June 18, 2022 by BhamGhostwriter
5★ “People were onto me, and I was becoming less capable of manipulating who I was to survive the war zone that was school, and for that matter, the world. Something had to give or I was going to crumble.” Brand new, terrific book. Lightheartedly serious, seriously informative, factually funny. And above all, real. “Feeling different. That’s where it normally begins for a queer person. You may ask yourself, ‘Am I broken? Sick? Weird?’ The answer is no. There is nothing wrong with you—there’s just something slightly different about you. Throughout the book, some well-known gay men write advice to their younger selves. Picture 1: Stephen Fry saying ‘Stephen, it’s going to be fine.’ Adults are familiar with Stephen Fry, but for kids who aren’t, the author reminds us he’s the voice of Harry Potter books. And once you’ve heard his voice, you’re not likely to forget it! Fry is probably a good example of the rest of Khalaf's comment about difference. “In time, that difference will become the greatest gift you could ask for. It will bring you love, identity, community, and eventually the freedom to be yourself. I promise. Life is a wonderful mess of successes, mistakes, joy, heartbreak, and learning. It can be even more intense if you’re gay. In this book, I hope to give you some golden lessons I’ve learned along the way.” Picture 2: Illustration of the page showing gayness is a gift There is a long table of contents, with sections about coming out, finding love, body development, and sex. Written like that, it sounds pretty boring. Trust me, it’s not. The author throws in plenty of personal anecdotes about his embarrassing moments as well as including more from famous people. A lot of it is very entertaining. First up, the abbreviations! He uses “LGBT Plus” to cover everybody. Makes sense. “LGBTTQQIAAP+ What does that mess of letters and symbols mean?! I’m going to use the acronym LGBT+ (which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, plus) in this book to stand for our big diverse queer community. This is a shortening of a much longer acronym that also includes queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual … and this STILL leaves some people out!” Picture 3: Illustration of being different Later in the book, he describes finding your own tribe. Picture 4: Illustration of being like others of your tribe He has good advice on how to choose whom to come out to first and suggests starting slow. His choosing three girls he was close to and telling them together that he was bi, meant the entire school knew about it within hours. Saying he was bi wasn’t going to dampen the enthusiasm of the bullies – he knows bullies have their own problems. I quite liked this quote about not giving up from someone who has had to deal with bullies in the spotlight. “Things will get easier, people’s minds will change, and you should be alive to see it.”—Ellen DeGeneres There is a lot of information on what to do, who to turn to, and how to deal with cyberbullying and people who threaten you with “I know where you live”. There is also a section on how to deal with sexuality and faith. Kids brought up in religious families may feel extra pressure from religions that may excommunicate members or promote gay conversion therapy. There’s a section for parents and families and how to support kids who’ve come out, plus there’s a section on the LGBT+ community, groups, marches and pride. There are also handy tips about being safe in public. “But the sad fact is, there are people out there who don’t like us, so it’s important to balance being authentically yourself with being safe.” Picture 5: Illustration of what some pr**k may do to your parade balloon Khalaf really has covered the lot! Dating, apps, online presence, drugs, and relationships, including monogamish (occasional outside action) and throuples (three people - the old ménage à trois). Picture 6: Illustration introducing the topic of sex First dates, first kiss, heartbreak, hormones, you name it, I bet it’s here. HIV, STDs, and more specific examples that aren't allowed in this review. Picture 7: One illustration of a few health issues to be aware of I was particularly delighted to see Aussie Shane Jenek featured, as we in Australia have just been treated to Courtney Act on Dancing with the Stars. He appeared as both his original Shane-self in interviews and rehearsals but danced as the gorgeous Courtney, high heels and backwards, like Ginger Rogers. Picture 8: Photos of Courtney/Shane and professional dancer (and good pal) Joshua Keefe from Australia's Dancing with the Stars 2019 One spectacular number brought the house down. Fully wigged and costumed, she dances and strips the glamour off to reveal him. You can find it online. The best comment I’ve ever heard to describe Courtney’s performance was a man who said something like “She is great! . . . um He is great! . . . um THEY are great!” That’s also the best example of how and why to use THEY as a personal pronoun for non-binary people. He/She/They are wonderful! Shane/Courtney (although as far as I know, he identifies as male but performs as Courtney). Picture 9: Picture of the inimitable, unforgettable Shane Jenek/Courtney Act But wait – there’s more! So much more. Good table of contents, excellent personal and medical advice, plus comprehensive information about services available in many countries and how to contact them. All in all, a first-rate publication and resource for communities, schools, libraries, and families. Wonderful upbeat, real handbook for kids and teens (to leave around for their parents to read, too)! LOVE IT!
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Reviewed in the United States on May 28, 2019 by PattyMacDotComma
Growing up gay in the early 2000s meant finding very few books that spoke clearly and directly to me. The ones I found were useful--indispensable, even--but had a fairly serious tone (Free Your Mind, anyone?). Thankfully for today's young gay/bi/queer/questioning men, Riyadh Khalaf has written a book that's serious and informative in all the right ways ("ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!"), while also being full of colorful illustrations, self-deprecating humor, and examples of lighthearted, grounded, healthy, happy gay men who have come through the other side of growing up. They know it can be difficult, but they all have the same message: in time, you'll see that being gay may be one of the best gifts you've ever been given!
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Reviewed in the United States on March 12, 2020 by Amazon Customer
I am so happy this book is out there! This book covers everything you could need to know from coming out to sexual health. This book pulls together all the necessary information for young gay men to navigate the world. It is funny, useful and the pictures are amazing. Yay!
Reviewed in the United States on July 11, 2019 by Amazon Customer