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Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery

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Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery provides insight for gay men struggling with the issues of sex and recovery, and for the professionals who work with them. The reader is equipped not only with essential information on the problems of drugs and sexuality, but also with solutions in the form of tools and resources that will support him along his path. The book is unique in its blend of therapeutic perspectives of addiction and sex therapy, from which Dr. Fawcett has integrated the most useful concepts and tools. Additionally, detailed case studies will assist clinicians who, in Dr. Fawcett's many trainings for professionals, have asked for material on substance use, identity, and sexuality in gay-identified men. These insights and tools will be helpful not only in the early stages of sobriety, but for an individual's continuing personal evolution of recovery as well.The book is divided into three parts to help guide the reader through this multifaceted topic. The first part, “The Perfect Storm,” examines how, through the release of dopamine and other neurotransmitters, methamphetamine has phenomenal power to change one’s mood and entice the user to ingest ever- increasing amounts of the drug. The role of excitement, risk, and even boredom are explored, along with the vulnerabilities of some gay men who find themselves feeling unattractive, left out, or disconnected and utilize meth to soothe these feelings. Finally, this part of the book explores the unfortunate intersection of meth, the gay community, and the rise of dangerous health concerns such as HIV/AIDS.The second part, “Exploring the Sexual Universe,” provides a sex therapist’s perspective on sexual desire and how eroticism develops in the brain, an elaborate world of sexual templates, scripts, and themes that methamphetamine penetrates and distorts. This section also highlights exciting discoveries of neurobiology and the direct impact of the brain’s plasticity on the profound problem of the fusion of meth and sex. Dopamine is the central player in the drama of both the feelings produced by drug use and the consequent hijacking of sexual desire. New discoveries about the brain’s ability to change and adapt in response to compulsive behaviors shed light both on the harmful consequences of drug use and clues about recovery. The final part, “Restoring Your Life,” explores the process of recovery from this drug in detail, with chapters on specific skills derived from thousands of hours working with clients, managing of feelings, and rethinking perspectives on sex. The reader will find that, with increased distance from the drug, such powerful emotions as vulnerability, anxiety, or shame, which once were buried by meth use, now provide direction to promote emotional transformations that ultimately enrich both the sexual and emotional life. Finally, the reader is guided in rebuilding relationships with himself, his loved ones, and the community as he continues in recovery. Gay men and their helping professionals will find the information in these pages illuminating and motivating as they create lives of recovery from addiction as well as fulfilling and joyous sexual expression. Read more


Publisher ‏ : ‎ S FL Center for Counseling and Therapy, Inc. (September 25, 2015)


Language ‏ : ‎ English


Paperback ‏ : ‎ 226 pages


ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0996257802


ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 00


Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 10.9 ounces


Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.48 x 9 inches


Best Sellers Rank: #266,664 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #228 in Drug Dependency & Recovery (Books) #406 in LGBTQ+ Demographic Studies #741 in Substance Abuse Recovery


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Top Amazon Reviews

    • Best Book on Meth and Gay Men
Hands down the best book ever written on Meth Addiction. This guy knows gay meth addicts inside and out and cites bone bending example after bone bending example to prove it. My thoughts through the first half of the book were “This guy REALLY gets it!!!” Now as far as the second half of the book and the solution that was way over my head and in my personal opinion is more suited for a therapist or professional to apply to their client. That’s why my therapist and I both bought a copy and read it. That allows him to safely walk me through the solution. Just my take on things. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on May 22, 2021 by Jeffrey H Johnson
    • Sadly, a major disappointment!
When I ordered Lust, Men and Meth -- as an ex-addict (and lifelong activist) -- I thought I'd finally found a book that honestly recognizes the power of this insidiously addictive drug, acknowledging its tenacious and troubling popularity among gay men. Nonetheless, the book proved to be a major disappointment. Let's give credit where it's due. The book's first half is a brilliant tour de force, focusing on neuroscience. Fawcett vividly demonstrates how meth hijacks the user's libido – initially intensifying sensuality and sexual pleasure, but ultimately commandeering and re-routing the nerve pathways associated with sexual pleasure itself -- creating desperate cravings for unattainable fulfillment. In the book's second half, however, the author runs off the rails, venturing into heavily anecdotal territory that doesn't necessarily follow from the hard science. First, he enters the realm of cognitive-behavioral therapy, where the experiences and thoughts of his clients become allegories for what's happening in their brains. Case histories soon turn to psychobabble, as the author ventures into a world of Jungian mumbo-jumbo about alleged "templates," "themes," and "shadows," including the thorny and controversial notion of "sex addiction" -- a far cry from the brain science with which the book began. Worse still, Fawcett undercuts his own admonitions against stigmatizing users. He acknowledges that meth creates a sense of community among users, but dismisses this as "an illusion," declaring, "Meth ultimately increases isolation and loneliness, and eventually creates even more stigma for a tribe of gay men by dividing the community itself." Then, again: "Anyone hoping to have a positive impact on this epidemic must employ both respect and empathy, and not further stigmatize the men and women caught in this drug vortex" -- meanwhile blind to his very own, all-too-obvious tendency to stigmatize. All this should have been predictable in view of the book's foreword by Mark S. King, who uses terms like "pathetic," "pitiful," and "twisting my authentic sexuality" to describe his own past addiction as a means of touting the book. In seeking to balance openness and community norms, Fawcett sets himself a daunting if not impossible task. One size doesn't fit all, with notions like "maturity," "liberation" or "authentic sexuality" currently very much in play, and often in contention, among gay men. To read Fawcett's account, one might not recognize that such a contested reality is legitimately even up for discussion. To reach the user on his own, often-transgressive terms, such an approach is counterproductive, and can even act as a trigger. In fact, the entire recovery-industry approach of "catching the user while he's vulnerable" is merely a laughable parody of the mythical dealer skulking about in a trenchcoat, seeking to hook the unwary through guile and deception. (Actual dealers, of course, don't need to "push" their product; addicts avidly seek them out.) Left unanswered: Is any non-stigmatizing, scientific harm-reduction approach appropriate or even plausible for meth use, or is it -- at best -- merely an instrument for "getting people into recovery"? Meanwhile, as usual, the questions genuinely worth answering are uniquely individual, and the answers, when they present themselves, will be a matter of personal responsibility and hard science. Despite this book's unfulfilled promise, we still have a long way to go. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on February 4, 2016 by Mitchell in Oakland
    • A Must Read for Every Gay Man
It is sad to see a community of beautiful lives be ruined by substance abuse. The author does an excellent job explaining why addiction is so prevalent among gay men and how it ruins their relationships as well as their individual lives. It also inspires hope for breaking the addiction cycle and reclaiming your life. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2021 by S. Davidson
    • Excellent resource for understanding and combatting meth addiction!
Dr. David Fawcett has authored a powerful commentary on methamphetamine dependence and addiction within the community of gay men. He explains with compelling clarity the complexities of how meth hijacks the human brain's pleasure centers. He highlights the insidious nature of meth's hold and spread intrapersonally and across the community, its seemingly inextricable intertwining with sexual behavior, the considerable challenges and difficulties of getting - and staying - clean and sober, and the ways in which gay men may be particularly vulnerable to meth's dangerous seduction. Throughout this book, Dr. Fawcett offers hope - through addiction recovery, therapeutic interventions, and other opportunities for growth and healing, and freedom from meth. This is an excellent resource for anyone seeking an empowering understanding of methamphetamine as well as solutions and remedies to its ravaging effects. I recommend this book highly! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on October 2, 2015 by John Chaffin, EdD, LMHC, ACHT
    • A must read
Fabulous read, comprehensive and informed approach to the interesting crisis of lust, (gay) men, and meth. Highly recommend this book
Reviewed in the United States on September 13, 2021 by Colby Walsh
    • A must
This book is as instrumental to a gay mans recovery from methamphetamine as the basic text or the big book
Reviewed in the United States on August 31, 2021 by Donnie Nardelli
    • Thank you David Fawcett for such a beautifully written book on such a critical issue.
I like how this powerful book that sheds light on complex and critical issue. The book is written comprehensively, and with obvious care, and an organic flow of ideas and information about the dynamics of addiction, eroticism and the brain's wiring - and how to overcome and heal from such powerful and dangerous forces. The information on healing from addiction and shame is clear and useful, with information that can benefit everyone on a healing path. I am already sharing passages from this section of the book with my clients, gay and straight. I highly recommend this book to clinicians and those who struggle with addiction. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2015 by Kris Drumm
    • Life After Meth
For gay men who deal with addiction, especially meth and sex, this book really hits the nail right on the head. After reading it, I discovered how relate-able my experiences were when dealing with meth and sex are to those in this book. It's like the book was written for me and I soon discovered, if I commit myself to kicking the addiction, this book is a great stepping tool toward a healthier and more satisfying life. Please give the book a chance to help you rediscover your self worth. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on December 2, 2016 by Jason L. Miles

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